If you're a mom who spends evenings at youth sports fields, parks, or outdoor events with kids who won't sit still for bug spray you need to read this.
Because I found something that solved a problem I'd been fighting for three seasons.
And the solution had nothing to do with spraying anything.
"I Just Stopped Trying"
It started on the first game of the season.
I came prepared. Bug spray, sunscreen, snacks, water bottles. I was that mom.
I pulled out the OFF! Family Care the one in the blue can and tried to spray Jake before the warmup.
He squirmed.
I got it in his eye.
He screamed.
Thirty parents turned and looked at us.
Jake cried for eight minutes while I tried to rinse his eye with a water bottle and assure his coach it was fine. My face was burning. Not from the sun.
By halftime, he had four bites on his ankles. I'd missed the gap between his sock and his shin guard. I tried to reapply, crouched on the sideline while he tried to watch the game, and he kept turning away. I gave up after getting it on his hands, which he immediately rubbed on his face.
By week two, I'd left the spray at home.
I told myself it was too hot. Too humid. Too much hassle for a weeknight.
The real reason: I couldn't face doing that again.
So I bought mosquito wristbands from Target. Jake wore one on each wrist for four days and then lost them both. I found one in the washing machine and one under the car seat.
I tried a citronella clip-on for my bag. The mosquitoes were not impressed.
By week four, I was that mom. Sitting at the edge of the bleachers, constantly swatting, watching her son scratch his ankles after the game, and feeling like I had failed at the most basic part of my job.
Protecting my kid.